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hand that splits a concrete block in half should, in the fullest expression of
the martial arts, be able to cuddle a baby.
One
empowers the other. The fist that loses its gentleness and spontaneity will
harden to the point of calcification, to the point of slowness and deadness in
response. Hit the stone too much, and the bones begin, like the concrete block,
to crumble, arthritically speaking.
Babies…along
with acts of gentleness and kindness are important in allowing technique to go
beyond the merely technical.
Take
today’s example – brushing someone’s hair. There is a weight to the act of
brushing similar to the downward palm strike of basic iron hand training.
Poorly done iron hand - or sticky hands… or Aikido guiding…or Karate blocking –
stops directly at the point of contact. Well trained iron hand sinks, flows
deep into the opponent, becomes one with the opponent.
In
a future post, I’d like to address the four main areas of martial arts training.
(I tried squeezing them into three, due to the feng sheui avoidance of the number four, but without success.)
These are – fighting, healing, spirituality and love/care. Of course, the
boundaries between these “categories” remain fluid and constantly shifting, just
like the martial arts themselves.
Let’s
start brushing –
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1. Your
partner sits relaxed in a chair in front of you. Stand behind her/him.
2. Relax,
as in a meditative state. Relax your abdomen, especially the area around the
navel. The spine sinks naturally without tension. No tension from the torso out
to the fingertips. The shoulders and the elbows droop ever so slightly.
3. Inhale
slowly through the nose. Exhale very slowly through either the nose (with the
tip of the tongue touching the upper palate of the mouth) or out through the
mouth.
4. Don’t
hold the brush just by the handle alone (that’s too disjointed a feeling).
Gently hold the main part of the brush in your hand. The brush should feel as
though it’s a part of you…just like a sword in Kendo.
5. Next,
relax both of your forearms on the top of your partner’s shoulders. There is a
wealth of pressure points along here that can be comforted and nurtured. Let
your forearms droop until they become one with the shoulders…then roll the
forearms gently from side to side. Doing so produces an exquisite feeling in
both the giver and the recipient of the massage. Don’t look at the clock;
massage, at its deepest level, is timeless.
6. With
the left arm gently anchored to his/her left shoulder creating a supportive
bond (in massage, one hand always supports and reassures), slowly begin drawing
the brush from just above the forehead back across the head. Right away, you
should hear the slow passage of the brush going through the hair as if a slow,
peaceful tide were coming in. Don’t touch the scalp right away; ease into it,
starting just at the surface of the hair.
7. Gradually
touch down on the scalp. Each stroke passes through the hair in a long whisper,
seemingly taking forever from front to back. At the end of each stroke, pause.
Here the stroke seems to fall away. Here you can actually feel the residue of
the stroke drop gently into your partner. Now lift the brush again, as if you
and the brush were a slow, heavy tide building up again.
The
experience, both for you and your partner, is deeply martial. It’s as if all
the old fighters had stolen into the room, taken you by the hand,had said: “Enough
of violence, it’s time for peace” and filled your body with their calm energy.
And empathy. Your hands –
and the brush – fairly drip with empathy. Empathy passes through her skin and
into her bloodstream. Her presence too, her humanity, teaches you to be empathetic. It's one of those rare moments
of oneness with the other.
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