Patience
and Martial Arts
Patience…..
We all need more of it, and we need to show it
more. But how do we develop patience?
If you don’t make it to the end of the article….you need to read to the end of the article :-)
One of the biggest social movement organisations,
AVAAZ, has initiated a campaign of self development as one of its main
campaigns for 2015 called 3 principles. As
part of its campaign it is asking people to pledge these three things:
Show Kindness and Respect: We will show kindness and respect towards
ourselves and others whenever possible. And it’s always possible, because
everyone we meet is fighting a battle we may know nothing about.
Strive for Wisdom: We will seek to be wise in our decisions, listening deeply to ourselves and others, and balancing our heads, hearts and intuitions in a harmony that feels right.
Practice Gratitude: We will regularly reflect on what we’re grateful for, because it brings perspective, dissolves negativity, and grounds us in what’s most important.
And although I personally believe that gratitude is
the most necessary virtue for any kind of personal development, I will leave
that for another blog and focus on patience.
All positive personal virtues are interconnected.
You cannot have patience with someone if you are not grateful for your
connection or interaction with them. You cannot be patient with someone if you
do not feel kindness and respect towards them.
So in order to grow patience we need to work at
developing ourselves in such a way that we create an internal harmony, which
allows us to embody and feel positive virtues on a such a deep level that they
can interrupt and change our pre-programmed thought patterns.
What do I mean by pre programmed thought patterns?
These are our normal reactions. How we react when someone says something to us,
or cuts us off in traffic. These are reactions that burst forth from our
subconscious, and are reliant on programming that may have happened when we
were small children. Would it make you proud to know that when acting in
frustration or anger you are probably using emotional thought patterns that
were developed when you were a child, and that emotionally you have not moved past
them?
So how do we develop patience? Meditation is the
easiest way to improve all positive virtues, but there are other ways you can
make a conscious effort to change your thought patterns. The bad news is it
takes work, the good news is it makes you feel really good when you try.
As most of you reading this article train in one of
our Kung Fu schools I will continue to frame the development of patience into
techniques that you can learn and practice while training in our classes. And I
will start by saying this.
If it weren’t for the patience of my teachers, but
more importantly the senior students and other students I trained with when I
was a white sash, I would not have had the rewarding and great learning
experience that I did when starting out on my Kung Fu journey.
An important part of training kung fu is working
with another person. Performing applications or drills, doing pad work or
merely training with someone for the shared experience is essential for
improving. You cannot learn to block if someone is not throwing punches at you.
So it is during these times, when training with others, that we can exercise our patience. During pad work drills, during hand to hand drills, when showing someone a technique, all of these opportunities present themselves during nearly every class that you will attend.
So ask yourself this every time you finish class
“Did I leave a positive impression with everyone whom I trained with today?”
“Did I do my best to help my partner improve their
Kung Fu?”
“Was I unselfish in my training?”
If you can answer yes to each of these questions
after a class my bet is that you will have enjoyed that class immensely, and
you probably learnt a lot yourself.
Finally on patience. Have patience with yourself. Allow yourself the
space to grow and improve both in your kung fu and in life without the negative
self talk and demands that our ego makes upon us. Enjoy learning and growth no
matter how small or slow.
My sincere thanks go to Sifu Norman Head of the
Head Academy of Kung Fu in Australia for this excellent article. The insights
he expresses really apply to all of us, no matter what branch of the martial
arts we study. Hopefully, Sifu Head will be kind enough to present another
article for us in the future.
Please discover more
about Sifu Head and Jow Gar Kung Fu by visiting
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